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Civility (Google it)

When I think about “social media”, the word “social” stands out – defined as “relating to society”, with synonyms including “communal”, “collective”, “group”, and “civil”. Lately, there seems to be a vast amount of social media activity which is anything but civil.

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The Morning After

*Names have been changed for anonymity.

Trigger warning – contains references to rape.

“I warn Toby*, I tell him ‘You make sure, before you do anything with a girl, that she’s definitely into it!’ – you hear so many stories where girls change

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Who’s that trip-trapping over my bridge?

Read to daily as a little girl, some stories stick in my memory. I had a Ladybird version of Three Billy Goats Gruff. I remember wondering as a child why they were called “Billy” goats? Were all goats boys? Was “Gruff” their surname?

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“Brace! Brace!”

***Triggering content – this piece includes non-explicit references to abuse/violence.

Definition of trauma triggers.

Definition of trigger warning.

If you have ever flown, you will be familiar with the phrase “Brace! Brace!” which pilots announce to prepare passengers for

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Let’s Stop “Slut-Shaming”

*All names have been changed.

I was at a conference a few years ago, “Speaking Out to End Sexual Violence.” During discussion, a delegate used the term “slut-shaming” . Having not heard it used for a little while, it felt jarring,

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Where the blame lies.

*Trigger warning – this post contains references to rape, please consider your well-being before reading.

After previewing Listen to Your Selfie, I watched it again with our children, always interested in their feedback on resources. Near the end, the young girl hesitates as

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A Thorn by Any Other Name….

Trigger Note: This blog discusses sexual assault which some might find triggering. Please prioritise your own well-being when choosing whether to continue reading – only you know what feels safe for you.

Involved with planning a project on sexual violence has led to numerous discussions

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In the Doghouse

Heard anyone lately saying “I’d lose my head if it wasn’t attached”, “Only have myself to blame” or “Could have kicked myself”? The last one is particularly sad; can you imagine if we responded to everyone else’s errors with physical aggression/violence in the

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Self-Belief – It’s an Inside Job!

A quick survey to begin with…..

Hands up if you are confident?

Hands up if you feel confident?

Hands up if you know someone who is confident?

Hands up if you think that person would put their hand up to the first or second questions?

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Achilles, Strength and Vulnerability

As lover of Twitter, I see many positive, supportive messages/memes every day which highlight “strength” and “vulnerability”. I recently began pondering these two words and what they actually mean. Are strength and vulnerability, in the context of a person’s emotional state of being, completely opposing

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